Good morning people! Happy Thursday, and can I just say that this week is flying by! I cannot say that I am upset by this because I am still trying to catch up on lost sleep from my vacation… not to mention that I am also DYING for the Olympics to kick-off tomorrow! I will be talking more about the latter point tomorrow, but for today I wanted to talk about something that has been on my mind a lot over the past few weeks….
Before I dive in, let me provide a bit of color. A few weeks ago I found myself in a discussion with a dear friend that turned sour. We were discussing K & I's birth plans and our intentions of having a natural birth. Going into this conversation I knew going into this topic that this was going to strike up a debate because a traditional birth is not so traditional anymore, but I truly did not expect the backlash and true concern my friend was expressing about my choices. The conversation did not last long before both parties were offended and needed to get off the phone to cool off. From my perspective, I felt like my friend was mom shaming me for picking a path that was different than her. However, when I look back I now wonder if my friend was equally as offended because she might have felt that I was judging her for having her babies with modern day interventions. (This topic will likely be a post all on its own, but until then let me be VERY clear when I say, I respect and understand every mom's choice to birth their own way! You have to do what will make you most comfortable)
We all have moments in our life where we disagree with someone. Yes, these moments are frustrating. Yes, it is normal to feel like you are taking crazy pills as you clearly explain the facts that you know to be true and the other person just does not get it. Yes, I too have come to the conclusion that some people are just plain stupid and you cannot reason with stupid.
I do not know what it was about this argument but for the first time in my life I really understood that no matter how frustrated I was, the people on the other side of that conversation are thinking the same thing about me.
I do not know about you, but I feel like there are a lot of strong opinions flying around these days. Never mind that most of us (myself included) live a large portion of their social lives on Social Media, but throw in the fact that it is an election year and BAM we are living in a world of judgement. It is hard to remember the fact that we are all just trying to figure it out in life, and that even though we might not agree all the time, we cannot just assume the other party is ignorant, stupid or just plain evil (yup - I am looking at you politically active friends on FB).
This is why I wanted to take some time to share one of my favorite Ted Talks with you today. Kathryn Schulz: On Being Wrong talks about the fact that we will all be wrong at some point in our lives (weather we want to acknowledge that or not) but being wrong is not bad - in fact, being wrong promotes progress and after all, being better than we were yesterday is what it is all about, right?
I hope you enjoy this Ted Talk as much as I did and let me know what you think! Change your opinion about any fights you have had recently?