Nostalgia is a funny thing - it’s a sneaky emotion that often creeps up when you least expect it. This week I am getting married. I thought I would be running around like a crazy woman taking care of last minute details, but instead I have found myself in a state of relaxation and appreciation. In five days I am marrying my best friend and all of the people we love will be in one room. I cannot help but look back on the past 28 years and wonder how the hell I got so damn lucky… I started thinking about if I knew this would be an outcome in my life when I was younger, would I have stressed about so many things leading up this point? Which then of course flooded my mind with a thousand and one embarrassing memories that I so desperately wish I could have avoided... So in honor of this I am going to talk about the top 15 things I wish I knew when I was younger that MIGHT have made my life a little easier.
If I knew then, what I know now…
You can never own enough tweezers - they come and go as they please so it is best to always have a back-up pair
Starbucks is NOT an everyday necessity - I thought when I graduated college it was my divine right to buy Starbucks everyday... I spent more money on Starbucks one month than I did on food. That phase was short lived.
Booze is much better is moderation - could have saved myself a lot of embarrassing moments in college (and the few years after) with this little tid-bit
Academics are NOT everything - traditional school gives you the foundation to take on the real world; your real education begins the day you graduate.
There is such thing as too many good things - just because it is a good thing does not mean you are immune from over doing it. Take time to relax and enjoy what is in front of you.
Mistakes are learning tools - Spend less time being embarrassed by what you did or did not do and more time figuring out where you went wrong so you do not do it again.
Your body definition does not define you - the best moments of my life are not tied to getting into a smaller pants size. Appreciate your body for what it does for you and do not hate it for what it does not.
Challenge yourself because nobody else ever will - so much of my youth was spent looking for someone who would help me be a better person; it took my YEARS to figure out that if I wanted something I was the only one who could motivate myself to do it.
Always make a graceful exit - When leaving a job, a relationship, or a group of friends always be sure to leave on a classy note; you never know when you will bump into these people again.
You are never too good, too educated, or better than any job - every job has its purpose. Embrace every task and learn from it.
Dogs are like children - they are living beings that require constant attention and they are expensive. Once you get one, you are committed for the next 10-15 years. This is not a decision to be taken lightly.
Active listening is part of effective communication - Most communication is non-verbal; put down your phone and actually see what is in front of you. Every time I have ever felt blindsided by something it was because I was not actually listening and simply missed the message.
Hearts break every day, it is not the end of the world - some people are not meant to be in your life forever, and that is okay.
You will never understand the opposite sex, learn to just enjoy them - fact: men are from Mars and women are from Venus. Accept it.
Control your controllables - simply put, accept the things you cannot change and put your best foot forward on the things you can.
Looking back, it is so easy to say "oh if only someone told me..." but the truth is, someone probably did tell me and I was too hard headed to listen. Some lessons are meant to be learned the hard way, but seeing where it got me today - I would not change a thing!